Insights

Personal observations and lessons learned through life's journey.

• ❤️Relationships and You

  Many positives are commonly mentioned about relationships - support, love, friendship, and more - while one I believe is left out. That one thing? The amount you grow and learn about your own character, helping you to become not only a better partner but a better individual too!

• 🚀Doing Something Lessons

  Sometimes just doing something before you actually have the full plan ready results in better focus to grow the plan, or fail fast on a project you don't actually enjoy - meaning you don't spend a bunch of time planning for something you find out you dislike.

• 📈Habits are key

  The person you are, the success you bring or happiness you have doesn't come in spikes. Instead, they are like compound interest, gradually growing into the high levels you eventually see. This gives more reason to not procrastinate, but break down big tasks into smaller daily ones (like do 1 hour of training a day vs 4 on Friday) to achieve our goals.

• 💪Actions Always Speak Like Pictures Describe

  People in your life can tell you how much they respect you, care about you, appreciate you, etc. These declarations are great and an important part of relationships, yet it is always the actions that either dispel or backup these statements that truly matter.

• ⏰Spending Time > Spending Money

  You can always do more to increase the amount of money you have in bank accounts, but there is an account that decreases every second. Your time balance. There is nothing more important than giving the people you love in your life some of those ticking seconds.

• ⚖️Measurements in Your Life

  We each use different measurements for other people in our life, friendships or spouses as we want to have balance within those relationships. One key point to remember? You can't control others and if they don't have the same measurements in place – you may end up disappointed. Communicate those expectations if necessary, or accept them for who they are. The boundary should be of their character, not the measurements of their contact or other expectations you set on them.

• 🎭Social Media Doesn't Paint the Truth

  Taking a peek at someone's social media accounts as an indicator of their life doesn't work. People post in different ways, only show specific information, and there isn't a true connection in a page visit. Real friendships are those who catch up through face to face or phone calls that produce intimate conversations to build trust. There is no other way.

• 💭Imposter Syndrome is Real

  Expertise is a fluid concept that doesn't have defined expectations. In reality, most of the time, there is someone who has more expertise than you on a subject. Let them be and live your life in peace. Instead, do your best to get a little smarter, and a little wiser each day.

• 🛡️A Key to a Good Life is Avoiding Big Mistakes

  Mistakes are going to happen in your life, there is no mistaking that. Decide where you want to be at the end of your life and start using inversion to see which actions take you there. For each action, ask yourself – what would be detrimintal to reaching these goals….avoid them like the plague, or bitcoin.

• 🌟Experiences > Materials - Spend Wisely

  During the most memorable experiences in your life, no one remembers what you were wearing, what size watch you were wearing, or what brand of shoes you have on. They remember how they felt, who they were with, and the new experience they never had before!

• 🗺️Journey Before Destination

  "The most important words a man can say are, 'I will do better.' These are not the most important words any man can say. I am a man, and they are what I needed to say. The ancient code of the Knights Radiant says 'journey before destination.' Some may call it a simple platitude, but it is far more. A journey will have pain and failure. It is not only the steps forward that we must accept. It is the stumbles. The trials. The knowledge that we will fail. That we will hurt those around us. But if we stop, if we accept the person we are when we fall, the journey ends. That failure becomes our destination. To love the journey is to accept no such end. I have found, through painful experience, that the most important step a person can take is always the next one." -Brandon Sanderson Oathbringer

• 💎You Get the Respect You Demand

  We're taught at a young age, be assertive - not agressive or passive. This is a tough balance in the fast world we live in, because people know more than we do in certain topics. People have authority and we have authority bias towards those in leadership roles. I believe that being assertive is a powerful talent, one that should be exercised to bring yourself the respect you deserve while being very respectful to others. It's a balance of both getting/demanding respect in a respectful way that helps you in all areas of your life.

• 👔You are the CEO of Your Life

  Currently having trouble with something in your life? Decide and act on how you can change it. Unhappy at your job? Find a way to change what is making you unhappy or find a new job. Unhappy with your commute? Find a new apartment. Easy to say harder to do right? Life isn't easy and we must use grit to get through the challenges!

• 🌱Your Habits Change Your Life

  Every day you have 24 hours, what are some of the things you always do? Do you read? Do you meditate? Exercise? Write? Those daily habits and systems that make you who you are also dictate who you will become. Choose those habits wisely.